Lets get Physical.....

Teenagers experience a lot of changes when when growing up. Whether it be physically(can you say puberty), emotionally, mentally and of course mentally. And no I am not talking about Olivia Newton John century old hit of the same name, but rather about teens and S.E.X

I was reading a newspaper the other day and I came upon a very interesting yet equally surprsing survey. The main subject was that 39% of young people between the ages of 12-22 are already engaging in regular sexual activities. It was interesting because after spending some time reading the article I was asking myself, who does these surveys and how do I know if its factual rather than pure assumption.

That aside I was astonished to discover that teens aged 12 are already greasing the sheets. I mean don't you have to go through puberty before making the decision of losing your virginity whether you male of female. And why is it  if kids young as 12 are already doing the deed that parents keep behaving that you have committed an unforgiveable sin if you decide to start shagging.

Lets face it, sex is one of the most natural things you will ever do in this earth. I grew thinking it was wrong, unnatural and should not been done. But I went in to learn it's the best thing any young man or woman should experience bofore the grim reaper has its way with you. Parents should should make the hard choice and talk to their children about the truths and myths of sexual intercourse(when they old enough of course).
These days with internet, wap enabled cellphones and the Bold and the Beautiful, sex is everywhere. Now if rather than spending your energy trying to talk your kids out of it, tell them its natural and highlight the dangers it comes with having sex.

With anything enjoyable as that comes responsibility.

HIV/Aids is a reality yes, but so are those 3 letters than most adults would like to avoid. I am not a sex expert(not that i believe in them) but if young teens especially, need to be are educated about these things so they will make informed decisions about these things. Just look at Eve, she was told not to eat fruit from the forbidden tree, but she took a bit at thar apple faster than you could say temptation.

I personally think that sexual intercourse has encountered this negative rap because people refuse to talk about it. It's better your teenage son or daughter to hear things from you rather than a slutty or bastard friend.

Greasing the sheets should not be an embarassment, but rather the pleasant experience it is.

The "X" Factor

NO I'm not talking about acerbic British music mogul's Simon Cowell's hit television show. In fact its something that I am sure everyone in our generation has or will experience.

My sisters and I are very close and we pretty much talk about everything(that siblings do talk about) and that includes the close relationship I still maintain with my EX of two years(not that im counting or anything). Simply put, lets just say the lady in question is not their favourite person. This got me thinking, if I was the only person who thought it wasnt a big deal to have contact with a former lover.

Maybe i do have ulterior motives or our frequent conversing is completely platonic. Either way this raised the dreaded question: Why do we keep contact with the X??.

I dated this girl(which we shall name XX) for over two years. I mean it was one of those relationships that you thought would last for eternity. But that wasnt the case and beacause of many things it just did not work out.
Now that the relationship has fizzled out, can we make it as friends. My sisters have their own agenda when it comes to Miss XX but I am sre that they too also do have that X that they keep in contact with now and then.

Is this the norm when relationships fail of is it a way for people to hold on to something hoping that one day it goes back to holding hands in public, whisper sweet nothings to each and promise to be completely faithful to that one individual(as if). A lot of people think its wise and polite to be "friends" with your former flame but others think its just asking for trouble.

Answer me this. If you are in close contact with your X, what does your current squeeze think about this. If you omit this from him/her, why is that? Is it because your heart is secretly yearning for a reunion or you just want that person to continue playing a role in your life on whatever basis.

Love is not easy, and whats even harder is trying to forget that one X that you thot you wouldnt part with no matter what life threw at you. I am not expert at these things(if there is such a thing) but I do know what it feels like to not know what role your X plays in your life. Maybe X' can be just friends without the sex question coming to play, but what if it does. Do you ignore everything that caused your previous attempt to making a relationship work, or do you give into temptation and give it another go. As i have observed guys and girls are never comfortable with their respective others who are still talking to their X's.

Miss XX and me regard each other as friends but we definately not lovers. Yet there is still that need to talk to each other from time to time. Whatever that means, is for us to decide.

Deny it all you want, but there is that ONE person that will always be "the one who got away" to everybody.